Do you wish you never had to communicate with your spouse during your divorce? It is a common wish among those getting divorced from someone with an abundance of personality and opinions.
If you do not have children, you might succeed in at least minimizing your contact. However, if you share children with your spouse, some communication is inevitable and necessary. Since you cannot always avoid spousal conversations, try to improve the discussions you must have together.
Hear to be heard
When you have something to discuss with your spouse, you need them to really hear your words. It goes both ways, so make sure you listen to what your spouse says. Chances are, they will notice your efforts and be more likely to respond in kind.
Clear your head
If you are angry or upset and your spouse wants to talk, try to put off the discussion until you are calm and clear-minded. A conversation that occurs when emotions are intense could devolve into a shouting match or outright battle.
The middle of a divorce is no time to get drawn into irrelevant conversations. If you keep your discussions focused on divorce or child-related matters, it can help you avoid conflicts. It also allows you to set boundaries for when, why and how you communicate together.
Let your advocate communicate
When a spouse is aggressive or combative, it can be even harder to have civil discussions. In these situations, it may be helpful to channel communications through your advocate. With this option, you have a better chance of avoiding senseless arguments.
Combine these tips with information about Indiana divorce laws to ensure a favorable outcome and continued positive communications with your spouse.