If you share a child with your ex, your relationship with them will not end after signing those divorce papers. Rather, you will need to shift gears towards raising your child together. While some people fall into this with much ease, it is not uncommon for others to struggle, especially if the divorce was acrimonious.
For the sake of your child, you absolutely can work out a co-parenting relationship that will serve your child’s best interests. Here are a few techniques that can help you make this happen:
Work out a common ground
There is a pretty good chance you and your ex do have some shared values or things you see eye-to-eye on. Perhaps, it is the love for your child. How about starting off from there and then moving on to things you both care about and need to prioritize like your child’s education and extra-curricular activities?
Finding common ground and working on the things you believe are important is the first step towards building a consensus on the other issues and working on a co-parenting plan that’s actually effective.
Define and maintain healthy boundaries
Divorce signals a new beginning. It is important that you set clear boundaries after the divorce. This refers to everything from how and when you and your co-parent will share custody and visitation, to how your families (parents and other relatives) will see the child.
The overall goal is to establish and nourish a healthy relationship between the child and both parents even if you are not living under the same roof. Once you have set your boundaries, be sure to communicate them in a neutral and positive way.
Co-parenting comes with its share of challenges. Find out how you can foster a co-parenting arrangement that works for everyone involved.