Divorce can be a very emotionally painful and mentally taxing exercise for everyone involved. If you have children, you are likely concerned about how your divorce will impact them both in the short and long term. As such, it is normal to ask the question, “What can I do to make this divorce bearable for the kids?”
Here are three simple tips that you can utilize to help your kids endure the emotional storm that comes with divorce.
Take care of yourself
To help your children deal with the trauma of divorce, you need to start by being there for yourself. Take care of yourself by eating healthy, getting enough sleep, spending time with your support system and getting your thoughts straight. The last thing you want to drown yourself in misery or take to an unhealthy lifestyle like drinking during these difficult times.
Talk to the kids about the divorce in the simplest way you can
It is important that you let the kids know about the divorce as soon as possible. If it’s feasible, have this discussion as a family. Do not leave it to one party to break the news alone. Also, do not let your kids learn about their parents’ divorce from a third party.
When breaking the news, be careful not to blame the divorce on your spouse as doing so might be counterproductive.
Let your kids know that your love for them will not change
Divorce can leave children with lots of questions — Who will they live with? What will post-divorce life look like?
To address some of their concerns, it is important that you seize the moment to assure your children of your unconditional love. Let them know that they have nothing to do with the divorce. Most importantly, let them know that both of you will be present in their lives, loving and caring for them regardless of the change in circumstances.
Divorce can take a huge emotional toll on the children. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to help them cope with your divorce. As you navigate the process, be sure to have legal guidance on your side.